Don't let People "Help" You
Don't manipulate or guide people (including, especially, your children). They'll let you know, usually in a mean way, that they don't appreciate it.
But even more important, don't let other people manipulate you.
They don't know what is best for your life (including our parents).
I am pro organic decision making, but manipulators make the decisions for you all on their own.
It is often disguised as help. Your aunt or uncle is trying to help out and you let them (you do as they suggest) out of obligation.
But do you see the problem here? You aren't thinking for yourself.
Only you know what is best for you. Think for yourself. Use your intuition. Be the author of your own life.
P.S. You might want to read about narcissistic parents if they are always trying to be the author of your life.
P.S.S. But you do, oddly enough, need to ask people for help if you want to reach your full potential.