How Normal Guys Do Pickup

The internet has a bunch of weird advice when it comes to dating, sex, and relationships.

Do yourself a favor, don’t dress up like a hipster and post your approaches on YouTube, roid up to impress chicks, or do any of those retarded drills or canned lines from pickup artists.

Just be a normal guy when you do pick up. Don’t be a social retard.

How do normal guys pick up girls?

Well, they do it a lot like James Bond.

That’s right. Sounds completely off, but I guarantee it’s true. Watch this clip with Halle Berry.

And right after that scene is James Bond making love to her.

Now you shouldn’t flirt that hard or fast with younger girls (it can easily scare them off, but if you can throw in a secret compliment – awesome!). Honestly, most of the time you're better off not flirting at all.

But did you notice it during the scene?

Even without the discrete compliment (like saying "Enjoying the view?" instead of "Magnificent view"), she would have known exactly why some random guy would start talking to her: Sex.

(Now he or she might want a relationship before sex, but it's still always about sex and she knows it.)

She knows exactly what is going on from the start (even without the flirting). She's just enjoying the ride.

And you are both being discreet about it (with or without the compliments).

Don't stress about how to flirt or having something cool to say. You being a man should be enough sexual excitement for her. She's not flirting with you but she's sexually exciting enough for you to approach her. She feels the same, but she just can't admit it due to social norms.

But you don’t say what is going on to her…at least not directly. Respect her by respecting the situation she is in.

Now does Bond go up to a girl and say, “You are so beautiful, I had to come talk to you!”

Of course not, he would be showing a complete lack of social intelligence and ability. It might work, but you are greatly lowering your odds and coming off weird and it puts her in an awkward position.

Think of it like making a kid’s movie where you also want to entertain the parents. You need subtle references for things that would be inappropriate for children.

But even if you took away all the innuendo, she still knows why he is talking to her.

She is not an idiot. She's not being seduced against her will.

And the fact that she is continuing the conversation means she is interested (but that doesn't mean she is going to sleep with you that night).

Even if she's mean to you but continues the conversation, she is interested in you. However, let me give you a pro life tip, stay far away from girls like that.

This means, for the most part, all you have to do is approach a girl and carry on a normal conversation (hinting at things is optional, but fun).

Get to know her.

Isn’t there more to it?

Dude, don’t over analyze this stuff. You can pull apart human interactions to the smallest denominator, but all that information isn’t going to help you. You need to take action.

Where do we go from there?

Simple, invite her to do something with you that she would be interested in even if she wasn’t attracted to you. This way you can keep playing it cool.

You don't even have to ask for her number. Just invite her to some group activity you both like. If she shows up you now know she likes you.

And if you don't have an event to invite her to, then you need to get a life before you hit on girls.

Go join a group so you can make some friends.

This stuff isn’t hard guys. Just don’t over think it.

P.S. Want some more help with your love life from James Bond? Still can't even start a conversation with girls? Then check out this article.


I think these Reddit comments sum it up nicely.

You’d be surprised how a guy just simply being nice is refreshing. Comment on the book she’s reading. 'Great book, right?' with a smile would do wonders.

Start with a "...nonchalant comment about whatever is happening at the time..." She'll let you know if she's interested in you by continuing the conversation and being nice to you.

Then follow up with questions to get to know her.

Just keep in mind that I am a person. Stop putting so much focus on my gender. That's it, really.

Flirting is optional, but not necessary (actually, it might even hurt you). In other words, stop trying so hard in life and just focus on getting to know her.

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