Why You're Still in Your Mom's Basement
"Action is a great restorer and builder of confidence. Inaction is not only the result, but the cause, of fear." -Norman Vincent Peale
I think that quote is a little misleading because fear never goes away. Maybe it gets heightened with time, but it is always there.
However, confidence is your ability to feel the fear and do it anyway, but confidence does go away with time.
And action truly is the restorer and builder of confidence. However, the more time you spend in your mom's basement, the more your confidence/willpower will atrophy.
Sure, you take action once in awhile, but that's not consistent enough. That's like mowing the lawn once a week, is that really going to get you in shape?
Instead, be part of something bigger than yourself. Join a group (new job, organization, volunteer program, etc.) that forces you to get out of your mom's basement (best if it gets you out of the house daily and makes you interact with people face-to-face).
And if you join the wrong group, then quit and join another. You'll figure out where you belong eventually.
P.S. Worst case scenario, you've taken so much inaction that your fear has evolved into apathy. You think you don't care, that all you desire is a comfortable life, but beyond your apathy is fear. And beyond your fear is everything you ever wanted in life.
P.S.S. I think the best first, small action to take is to share with someone close to you what you are afraid of, what you are thinking about. Remember, don't keep secrets.
"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." -Dale Carnegie